God is a god of ORDER. He is not a God of BALANCE. He created this world in a purposeful progression. He established the seasons in a certain succession. He made our bodies to function and to grow in an organized sequence.
In Psalm 90:12, we read, "Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom."
That may mean count our days. It may also mean make our days count. As I read that verse today, I'm hearing the Lord tell me to ORDER my days.
That means put the first thing first (God first!), and let everyone/everything else fall into its right place after that. Here is my list of priorities, in order of importance.
E. Women's Ministry
My relationship with God is first, above all else. Then my husband before my children, children before my home, home before my ministry, and ministry above all the rest. It looks like an easy list to follow, doesn't it?
But how EASY it is to get these all mixed up! I've fallen into the trap of allowing a lesser priority to come before a higher priority! I have placed my home before my children when I must. finish. this. task...and, in turn, neglect building our relationship or their training. My ministry is coming before my home when I clean it ONLY for the women coming over on a Tuesday evening, and not just because my work at home is for the Lord, or simply to clean house for my family's benefit.
Lately, I've noticed that my ministry has come even before my husband at times. I spent both my husband's birthday AND our 14th anniversary night downstairs in our basement helping other women with their own marriages! They were both amazing nights! My husband did not complain or express any concern about where I was focusing my time and thoughts those nights--he was encouraging me in that ministry. But I was convicted.
There is nothing inherently wrong with leading other women. It is, in fact, a mandate from the Lord for older women to teach younger women. As I grow older with each passing year, I feel the responsibility already of becoming the older woman teaching younger women the commands of Titus 2:4-5.
It is so easy to give all that I have to my small group--to empty myself in efforts of helping everyone else--while I forget to feed myself the same truths. It is so easy to even forget that I need to constantly be working on the same things in my own life and marriage!
Nothing grows unless you feed it. I've been feeding good food to some amazing women, and their lives and marriages are better for it! But I've been neglecting mine. Don't get me wrong--we have no marriage problems--but what marriage can't be made better in at least ONE area? That area will be different for you than it is for me, but let's commit to tending to that which is ours to tend! And to put our priorities in their due position in our lives!
As I find my way around the blog world and figure out what my days are going to look like with this great new venture on my list, and as we continue on with my women's group for another month, I must keep my list in front of me, so that nothing slips out of its proper place in my heart, mind, or schedule.
Your list of priorities should be ordered based on what will still be there if the rest were gone.
If I stopped doing all the "other" things I do that are not as important to the Lord, I'd still have God, husband, children, home, and small groups.
If I stopped leading small groups, I'd still have God, my husband, my children, and my home on the list.
If I had no home to keep, I'd still have God, my husband, and my children.
When my children are grown and leave the nest, I'll still have God, and my husband to love and to serve.
And at the end of my life, it will be just me and God.
Time to get everyone and everything back in their proper alignment. Let's go after that heart of wisdom as we order our days!
How do YOU order your days? And if you get off track with your priorities, what do you do to correct it? Tell me in the comments below!