I also received the following note privately from a dear young woman who is struggling with needing more intimacy with her husband.
The young woman gave me permission to publish her note in hopes of receiving biblical advice regarding her situation. You can post your advice on my Facebook Page to keep comments in one place. Go here to post a comment.
A classic answer to the question you posted today (what's your biggest struggle as a wife?) seems to be along the lines of "being intimate with my husband when I'm so tired from all the demands of the day." However, in my case, it's exactly the opposite, and has been for almost the entire time we've been married. I am the one wishing we could be intimate more often, and he's the one who is reluctant. I've almost completely quit initiating anything intimate physically, because it hurts worse to feel rejected than it does to deal with craving physical affection/release.
I realized several months ago that I was just adding to my husband's own frustration about it, and have REALLY backed off. We don't discuss the issue any more, and I've pretty much given up thinking anything will change. I try to be content with the times HE initiates and is "in the mood," but the rest of the time I just try to ignore and/or shove aside my own desires. I'm not really sure this response is the most healthy for our relationship either, but I don't know what else to do.
Any recommendations or resources that might help me deal with this struggle in my own head? I've been praying about it, but I don't really see this changing any time soon - if at all.
Thank you, ladies.