Thursday, November 01, 2012
Complete or Compete
Do you ever get tired of trying to control your husband? If so, good. It's not our job to control, but to help. A helper is someone who completes and does not compete with her husband. It is quiet simple really, but we mess it up with our distorted perception of marriage.
I've decided to back off on giving my husband suggestions because I realize it's a subtle way of controlling his decisions. Besides, it is apparent that when I start in with suggestions he gets apprehensive.
Letting go has been liberating. Our marriage is experiencing less tension for one thing, but the most important factor is that I'm not as angry and stressed as I use to be.
I know how hard it is to step back and allow a man to do what he has to do - even if it means that he fails. But if we don't back off - we're going to lose our sanity and marriages.
I'm focused on living a peaceable life working with my hands, taking care of my body and mind, and tending to my children. I no longer spend my days fretting about my husband's decisions. You know what? If my husband's making a mistake or is in sin, all I need to do is get out of the way and let God set him straight.
Leaning into my role completely has allowed me to receive the beauty of womanhood. I love being a woman and I hope it shows in everything I do. It is who I am.
A woman is many things, but here is my definition: She's a helper, a lover, a nurturer, and friend. She's the opposite of man who is wondrously masculine, logical, and aggressive.
Who doesn't want to fit into the skin of a man so comfortable with who he is that it allows a woman to be everything that God created her to be?
I encourage you to take a break and complete your husband instead of competing with him.
It's so much easier.