I've noticed that people with all the right moves don't always have my family's best interest in mind. While I know many families who are intelligent and God-fearing, I'm not inclined to follow their parenting methods. It's taken me years of trial and error to remove myself from the crowd and make decisions for my children based on scripture and what is best for them.
God did not create us to be cookie cutter Christians. He created us to use our minds and gifts to establish what is good, noble, and appropriate for our children. We need not follow a group or method to feel worthy or accepted as mothers. God has already accepted you, dear mother. Believe.
I'm not implying that one cannot learn from others. There are some amazing folks out there that have the gift of teaching and discernment. I treasure these people, but I'm also careful to pray and seek God for each individual child that He has allowed me to raise. God has the final say so - not people or methods.
For example, I've had the county and public school system in my home on a weekly basis for the last four years. While I'm grateful for the service provided, they bombard me with tried and true methods for my daughter, Ella. While some are good and work fine, there are days I find myself being led by God in a different direction with Ella.
Love and common sense are not traits that one can learn in college.
My point is simply this....God is our finally authority when it concerns our children and homes. We (not our leaders or friends) will give an account for our children one day, so let us run the race necessary to produce great individuals. Individuals who know how to live life and love God with all their minds, hearts, and strength.
God bless you, friend.