Friday, June 15, 2012
5 Helpful Tips for the Overwhelmed Mom
As moms, we aim to do a lot more than we should. In fact, it's one of the reasons we often feel overwhelmed.
Instead of taking on more responsibility, here are five tips to help the over-stressed mom.
Let your children do it.
Your job is to help the child reach a place where they can do the basics on their own.
That means you teach and train a child how to use a broom and vacuum, then letting them vacuum the living room. At an early age children should be picking up their rooms, making their beds, organizing their closets, and getting their own snacks. It's not going to be perfect, but that's what training is all about.
Let your yes be yes and your no - no.
Be selective in what we agree to do prevent feelings of exhaustion and reduce levels of anxiety.
And saying no also applies to your children. Contrary to popular belief saying no will make you a much better mom.
Stop excusing your child's inappropriate behavior.
"She didn't mean it. She only wanted to play." I gave this excuse once for one of my children and the mother threw me a look that said, "Seriously?!" Making my child take ownership for what she had done would have been the appropriate response.
Ask others for help
So many mothers feel they cannot ask for help. A network of women that support one another is so important and necessary. Make dinner for a sick mom or babysit while mom takes a trip to the doctor or grocery store.
I started scheduling me time. I take weekly trips to a cafe where I enjoy writing, browsing books, and drinking tea. I also began exercising at least three times a week in the morning or whenever I get the chance. I'm trying to eat smaller meals more frequently to speed up my metabolism.
I intentionally spend time with the Lord in the mornings to renew my spirit and mind. I pray daily and meditate on verses that help me in areas of struggle.
Me time might look different for you, but I encourage you to take care of yourself. If this seems impossible, refer to "Not Asking for Help."
Moms are usually stereotyped as frazzled and overwhelmed because we live in a world where we spend most of our time majoring in the minors.
I struggle most with asking others for help.
What's your biggest struggle?
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